Michael J. Fox
True, "there is dignity in labour". It's honorable to work, so you can care for yourself and for your family. For most men and women, they work, not just for themselves but for every member of their family. So many people go as far as depriving themselves of some personal needs just so they can....
assist the family. To keep up with every day expenses, especially as a married man or woman, one really needs to work extra hard. Extra hard, could mean extra hours or very late or extra days.
Many of us take our work very seriously and may even be guilty of taking it too seriously. For some people, their job means a whole lot to them, there is really no time for anything or any one else not even themselves!
In as much as work is important, as a married man or woman, your whole effort to put bread on table for your family is incomplete, if you do not create ample time for everyone in your family, especially your children.
You may work tirelessly from morning till night so as to provide for your family, if you are not always there physically for them, it will still be incomplete.
We must learn to strike a balance between our work and our home, one aspect must not override the other. Balancing the two is very important to have a happy home that we all pray for, no matter how busy you may be, create time for your family too.
As a father, you won't believe how much your son needs you even though he tries to act all mature. He needs to talk to you, to tell you his fears, his joys, his, failures and his triumphs. He needs you to correct him, to even scold him. He needs you here not there, sometimes for no reason at all, he just wants to know that his dad will always be around. Your son or daughter, wants to pick up your shoes, hide them and see if you can find them. He or she wants to come out with them laughing, telling you dad voila! I've found them. Some people say daughters are usually closer to their dads than to their mums (No facts really), but facts or no facts , how will yours be close to you when you are never around to talk, and ever busy? Your children want a Dad they can play with, run around the house with and talk to.
Even if you provide all the money and give them all the gifts that money can buy, but fail to connect with them physically, it will still be incomplete. You might get away with it when they are still very little, but when they start to grow up, endeavor to fix things, otherwise, the gap between you and your own children may begin to broaden and I am telling you, it is not a nice experience at all.
As a woman, the truth is that you are the home keeper. You have the power to build a happy and loving home if you choose to. Even though you work, your family should not suffer for it. You cannot put your job before your family. Your family must come first, your husband, your children are far more important than any job, your family is your first job.
The housekeeper, should not take your place in your family. Being constantly away from your family will only help your children and husband grow fonder of the housekeeper and replace you and it really doesn't matter if you are the breadwinner of the family!
As a parent, if you do not balance your job and your home, the same children you run around to provide for, will look you in the face one day and tell you, you were not there when they needed you and that to me, is the worst thing a parent can go through because, you will feel like you've lost that child.
At the end of it all, you will not work forever, the job will go and all you will have left is your family. Please, no matter how busy your work schedule is, balance your work with your home, your family needs your presence even more than you can imagine.
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