Tolerance And Patience Keys To A Happy Marriage

"Happily ever after is not a fairy tale. It's a choice."
                                                                         Fawn Weaver

                                                                               

  Every one hopes for a successful and happy marriage, but the truth remains that, having a happy married life requires  lots of commitment from both spouse. Most happy and long lasting
 marriages, are  built by two people, who have decided to accept each other's differences and build their  relationship in love with great effort and focus.

   It is very possible to build a happy home, only if we can be humble and selfless enough to tolerant our partner's or spouse's flaws and be patient with them.

Doing so certainly, will require giving up on our ego. Yes, you just have to let go of your pride to be able to tolerate the next person.

Considering one's class, level, achievements, background or status, does not count when relating  with the one you're fond of.

  When it has to do with marriage, there are those odd days, your spouse will disappoint, annoy or provoke you. Days you may be tempted to say or do the wrong things
Several instances you will be so angry and will expect an apology, a gift, a pat in the back, but won't get them , days you will be be fed up and days you will feel like walking away.

In those moments, you need to learn how to control your emotions. be calm, patient and tolerant. Remember your spouse is not just anyone else but that very special person who is after all, human.

  Many homes have been avoidably shattered, just because those involved could not bring themselves to be tolerant with each other.

They fail to accept their differences, they fail to always remember that their union is made of two different people with totally different upbringing, sometimes different religion, perception, conviction, morals or ideas.

They fail to see that they are two different people who have been made, moulded and shaped differently for many years before deciding to live together.

They  are quick to forget, that the only thing that has bound them together, irrespective of those differences, is love.

They have failed to realise and come to terms with the fact that, to co- exist happily, amidst these differences, they must be patient, learn to tolerate and accept each other in love.

  It was Richard Needham who said " You don't marry one person; You marry three: The person you think they are, the person they are and the person they are going to become as a result of being married to you."

   As couples, we should see each other first, as friends. Friends that are meant to take care of each other. See your spouse as that friend that  needs you to tolerate and be patient with him or her.
Your spouse is not perfect and believe me, neither are you. So please tolerate them and be a little more patient.

You can have a happy marriage if you try to be a little more patient and tolerant.

 There are no perfect marriages because there are no perfect human beings but there are near perfect marriages and we can make ours one, if only we try to  accept that, tolerance and patience are keys to a happy marriage.