How does one get so sure that he/she is the real one, and not just a sidechic or guy hidden away from family and friends who know who his real partner is?
Are you sure he or she is not just playing along, waiting to kick you to the side when they are done with you?
If you aren’t sure, the 5 points below will help you know your place in that partners life.
1. They don't reach out if you don't
Communication is pretty key in a relationship and for the partner that fears losing you, he will be dedicated to constantly keeping in touch and being a part of your life on a day to day basis.
If your 'boyfriend or girlfriend does not do this, and the only time you communicate is when you reach out, there could be a problem.
2. Never gets jealous
How does it happen in a normal balanced relationship that a partner does not ever get jealous about you?
I really do not care how calm and collected the guy/lady is, there definitely will be an exhibition of healthy jealousy when it comes to you.
If a partner does not ever get jealous about you, even when they absolutely have reasons to ask questions and all that, they could be letting you know that you are free to do what you want, because as far as he or she is concerned, what you have is just temporary anyway.
3.No labels
When a partner says he or she is not into labels, it means one clear thing - you are simply not the 'real one'.
Forget any other explanation, you are simply not as special to him or her as they might be to you.
4. He doesn’t flaunt you at all
There have been several office events, many occasions that required him or her to go with a companion but he never feels you should come along with him.
Want to know why? He or she wanted to appear single and very willing to mingle at those events, or to be able to go with his or her real partner — that’s why.
5. Just a steady supply of sex
Again we get to the issue of the opportunistic knacks. The one he sees as his ‘sare wa gba’ [This is an emerging Yoruba slang which loosely translates to 'booty calls.']
As a matter of fact, this might just be the reason why he is even making the little attempts to stay in touch and keep you around.
Hence, whenever he manages to create little time, [or sometimes after you have pestered him for a date or hangout] he wants not much else asides touching and torching that body as much as he can.
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